tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6317928323249589917.post4830759005369742283..comments2023-11-30T00:16:29.950-08:00Comments on My Kennedy's Story: HOW DO I KNOW MY CHILD IS TRANSGENDER??Candicehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11767381904731267505noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6317928323249589917.post-5207085888527184692021-11-05T04:37:45.992-07:002021-11-05T04:37:45.992-07:00Thanks for picking out the time to discuss this, I...Thanks for picking out the time to discuss this, I feel great about it and love studying more on this topic. It is extremely helpful for me. Thanks for such a valuable help again. <a href="https://argoprep.com/blog/word-family-finding-the-commonalities/" rel="nofollow">what are word families</a><br />mahnoorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11195359451582037137noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6317928323249589917.post-62578831452857959302020-12-31T20:25:26.406-08:002020-12-31T20:25:26.406-08:00This is a fantastic website , thanks for sharing. ...This is a fantastic website , thanks for sharing. <a href="https://www.diigo.com/item/note/7bhmn/ev9h?k=6bbf19278225a35ac23baf5f30ad76b8" rel="nofollow">preschool melville</a>internetworkerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15207392596936380698noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6317928323249589917.post-29097837494409941672017-02-13T15:35:32.193-08:002017-02-13T15:35:32.193-08:00My daughter is 12 and just told me today that she ...My daughter is 12 and just told me today that she thinks she wants to be a boy also. Never has this been an issue until now. I would describe her as a girlie tomboy as she likes both boy and girl thing. As her mom I have the same concerns you seem to have had. May I ask for your advice and how your situation turned out?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10449687429266364636noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6317928323249589917.post-3316963271644545572016-10-15T11:15:46.041-07:002016-10-15T11:15:46.041-07:00My heart goes out to you. I am in exactly the same...My heart goes out to you. I am in exactly the same boat. My daughter is failing school. She's 14. In August of this year, we started to hear rumblings from her of being Trans. Previously, she was a typical girl, loved to go to Sephora, buy shoes, wear gorgeous dresses. She literally cannot think of anything BUT being trans lately. She is angry. This is a kid who used to ask me was it okay to say 'shut up' occasionally. Now she talks like a truck driver, wears flannel shirts that are 4 sizes to large and had her gorgeous blond hair shaved off. I can't stand what she is doing to herself and to our family. She has no friends at school, the teachers are so frustrated and I am about to tear my hair out.Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10253065173715428250noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6317928323249589917.post-14806335320853124472016-10-06T21:13:05.579-07:002016-10-06T21:13:05.579-07:00I am in the very same position.
My daughter will...I am in the very same position. <br /><br />My daughter will be 18 this month. She tells me she is trans. She wasn't like this until she met one of her friends who just feels the need to be different. So after she met this friend, she told me she was bi. Then a bit later, after her friend came out as Lesbian, so did my daughter and all her friends. Then this friend wanted to be nongender and then trans. My daughter went to gay pride and came back trans. I have no clue how that happened.<br /><br />She was always into guy things and getting dirty and hated being a girl. BUT, I was the same way when I was young and hated being a girl. I am still very much a tomboy but am married to a man and never had an interest in women or both or anything like that.<br /><br />She is insistant on getting on Testerone once she turns 18 and I keep trying to tell her to wait until she is about 23-25 so her brain is fully grown and she can make such life altering decisions. <br /><br />I can't comprehend this entire gender world. There was an article the other day which was about 58 different genders. Come one now. There is male and female. Why must there be more? I can't comprehend this at all and no matter what I say, she has an answer for everything. Is this really just an epidemic? She is basing her entire life on trans. Which colleges are pro-trans? Which president will be ok with trans? etc. She doesn't care if the new president will help her future but she is more interested in whether they will be ok with the trans community. Ugh, my brain hurts just thinking about it.<br />HELP !!!!!!!!!!!Words By Me Alonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18114313022751577390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6317928323249589917.post-35104711562561880962016-09-12T09:51:51.113-07:002016-09-12T09:51:51.113-07:00I am glad I came across this post.
My daughter ...I am glad I came across this post. <br /><br />My daughter - this morning- told us she wants to be a boy. She wants to change her name and start getting testosterone shots and wants us to refer to her as a him. <br /><br />We are just flabbergasted. Please know - this isn't something we are against - but how do you know if your child really is transgendered or if it is a phase because she has friends who are saying the same thing.<br /><br />My daughter has been girly from the beginning. She wouldn't leave the house without tulle and a crown. Granted - she has never been afraid to get dirty or play in the mud - but beyond that she was as girly as any girl ever once. For years she wouldn't wear anything but dresses. She has had crushes on boys - both when younger and now as a 14 year old.<br /><br />Last year she decided she didn't want to wear dresses anymore. I was the same way - just wasn't comfortable in them anymore at that age. She dresses in black, bleached her hair white and changes it to purple/blue at will. Wears jeans and flannel shirts. <br /><br />Up until the last few months the only time she even mentioned she didn't like being female was when she started her period. "I hate it! Why do I have to get these every month! It isn't fair, boys don't have periods and boys don't grow boobs, why do I have to." The last few months she gets real touchy. I will tell her to load the dishwasher, "IS THAT BECAUSE I AM A GIRL! YOU ARE MAKING ME FALL INTO THESE GENDER ROLLS!" My response is usually, "Um, no. It is your night to do the dishes - that is why I told you to do the dishes. Anything at all I say that can be a "typical" female roll she starts screaming about it. I don't want her to get a tattoo - she is 14, "IS THAT BECAUSE GIRLS ARE SUPPOSED TO BE SWEET AND NOT HAVE THINGS LIKE THAT!" Me, "Um, no. It is because you are 14 and that is too young to have a tattoo that will be with you forever."<br /><br />I am just confused. I know individuals who are homosexual - but I have never closely known someone who is transgendered. How does a person go from being as girly as can be from early on (always wanted pink and sparkly thinks when younger) to "I am a boy trapped in a girls body, and always have been."<br /><br />Would love some advice here. . . . Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13741564863405147034noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6317928323249589917.post-27866297840048521622015-10-11T07:16:38.097-07:002015-10-11T07:16:38.097-07:00Hi Candice
I have a child who I believe has a gend...Hi Candice<br />I have a child who I believe has a gender variant, but I'm not sure yet if it is "transgender". I am reading everything I can find and learning as much as I can, but I feel at this point that I would prefer to find a SUPPORTIVE professional to engage my child in councelling, so I can be as supportive as possible. My child is approaching puberty over the next year or 2 and if suppresive therapy is the right thing to do, I want to be prepared.<br />If there are any resources you can recommend, it would be highly appreciated!<br />TIAJennahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01983047919747658521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6317928323249589917.post-23497797840158960862015-10-01T17:40:00.077-07:002015-10-01T17:40:00.077-07:00Children aren't capable of expressing the true...Children aren't capable of expressing the true reasonings behind WHY they feel the way they do. I was a tomboy. At first I wanted to not be a girl. Ofc at that age, if i had talked about it, i would have said "i wish i was a boy." Look around at how young girls are treated.. lol. "No dear your brother can only go have fun. You have to stay here and do "girl" things (which are meaningless, boring and lame.) "No dear, only your brother can fish and hunt, that's not really for girls." Lets skip ahead to school: "Oh my god, you need a makeover or boys will never like you!" (Which leads to them realizing that if that's the only way a boy will like them, than they'd rather not have a boy.) "What are you a lesbo!?" Now lets skip to tv. *Sea of women who are overly sexualized and scantily clad with unrealistic bodies and looks.* Ofc any NORMAL child would run far away from that crap. In my opinion having a "boyish" personality is NORMAL and everyone else is brainwashed. Now I know though that I like being a wife and a mommy and I love my husband. I have never been 'attracted' to a female. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07102151885479844887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6317928323249589917.post-71920405503345034592015-08-19T05:17:36.142-07:002015-08-19T05:17:36.142-07:00Hello, my son is 17 yrs old and just recently anno...Hello, my son is 17 yrs old and just recently announced "he" has always been a "she" and would like to be addressed by his new name, "chloe". His dad, little brother and I are having a very hard time with this. Ronnie has never shown any feminine characteristics, has very poor grooming habits, and even though he insists he is a girl, rarely shaves and continues to dress like a guy (rock t-shirts and jeans). He says he still is attracted to girls but is bisexual. The condundrum is this, he's always been a quirky kid. He's never maintained friendships, finds it hard to fit into any group. At age 5 his pediatrician suggested Ronnie had Asperghers - on the high achieving end of the Autism spectrum. To this day he cannot answer a phone, order fast food on his own, talk to people he knows when he sees them in public,finds it very hard to interact with people and has been bullied by others his age most of his life. He's a good looking kid and is musically gifted, plays most instruments and loves to perform in bands and onstage as a singer, drummer, bass player you name it. However he rarely even speaks to his own band mates though and has a very hard time maintaining any type of relationship with anyone. This is killing us as a family. We have no idea where he came up with this "I am and have always been your daughter" but I have him with a therapist whom he chose and who specializes in gender confusion therapy. So far, I've not seen a change. He starts his junior year in HS tomorrow and I'm scared he's going to have a very hard time if he has the teachers address him as Chloe when he looks like Ron. I love my kid and want to support him/her but right now I feel as if I am living with a stranger in my home. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06617314823516592725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6317928323249589917.post-49151594521295757692015-04-07T16:54:45.131-07:002015-04-07T16:54:45.131-07:00You sound like a great parent, too many are worrie...You sound like a great parent, too many are worried about what people will think instead of what their child needs. I'm very confused atm and really don't know what to do for the best... my daughter Emily 6 she is a classic tomboy, she wears boys clothes, loves superheros and soccer, she is chopping her hair up short this Friday, she has been this way since about age 3, I have always made excuses about cutting off her hair because I was afraid that she'd be bullied but it's something she really wants so we're doing it. She has in the past told me she doesn't want to grow 'boobies' and will cut them off! And the odd time if I say good girl she tells me I should say boy. Thing is though she's not miserable at all, she is a happy, active and social child. She has never mentioned changing her name either. I don't want to steer this for her in either direction and I don't know how to proceed without assuming sge is transgender, I don't want her to feel that she's not free to be a girl either... like I said confused! Any advice you can give would be really welcome xAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16044760438599381753noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6317928323249589917.post-48488102911004990282013-10-16T22:11:44.665-07:002013-10-16T22:11:44.665-07:00Thanks so muchThanks so muchCandicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11767381904731267505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6317928323249589917.post-24903166052425560492013-06-19T10:59:09.135-07:002013-06-19T10:59:09.135-07:00Candice, you are a huge inspiration to not only pa...Candice, you are a huge inspiration to not only parents but any transgendered person reading this.Shilucyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16753146106542814715noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6317928323249589917.post-87586731303372506252013-04-03T09:19:09.367-07:002013-04-03T09:19:09.367-07:00My 16 year old daughter came out to me as a bi-sex...My 16 year old daughter came out to me as a bi-sexual 2 years ago. Since then she has had one girlfriend and a couple of boyfriends. She is still a virgin, I do believe her. We have always had this very open, tolerant relationship, unconditional - she has ALWAYS come to me with everything. She has always had a crazy fashion sense & has always been cutting edge when it comes to hair, music, everything. About 2 weeks ago, she decided she needed to cut her hair into a "faux-hawk". We did that last week. After the haircut she started wearing her brother's clothes & binding her breasts (poor thing's a DDD). On Sunday she told me she wants breast removal surgery & that she is transgender. Yesterday she sends me tons of links about it & in tears, told me that she has been in denial her whole life. I hugged her and told her that no matter what, I am here. Her "soul happiness" is my biggest concern, "forever & ever amen". She asked me to wait to talk to her Dad, or the rest of our extended family, yet. She's OK'd me to tell one of my friends, she understands Mom needs to talk to someone too. We live in a VERY small town, backwards, actually. Hard to find a family therapist, let alone a transgender specialist.<br /><br />She is in a exchange student program, will be leaving for Taiwan in August for 10 months. She worked very hard to get in this program. She said she wanted wait on counseling or anything else til she gets back. But she does want a "binder" for her breasts now. Is that physically healthy, can it hurt the breast tissue? She will be under so much other stress over the next year, I don't want her tormented through that time. What can I do for her?TShumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05955630081619478383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6317928323249589917.post-86055580405922385482013-03-26T08:21:41.328-07:002013-03-26T08:21:41.328-07:00Hi Candace, I just met someone who works with some...Hi Candace, I just met someone who works with someone who knows your story personally. I believe we live in the same "red" area ;) My son just came out to us in August and is attending the local high school with students he has gone to school with since 4th grade. Luckily, the school is large (1,000) students on his 9th grade campus and 3,000 students on the main campus that he has found a place to "fit" in. So far, overall the school and students have been accepting. I would love to chat with you and see if you have any resources/rights information that I can present to the school district for the coming year when my son goes to the main campus. My son's story is a bit different, in the fact, that he did not know what his gender id was until puberty. Even in the trasgender spectrum he feels like he does not fit in...my husband and I tell him to enjoy who he is and do not worry about fitting in the perfect box. Transgender people come in all sizes, shapes, expressions and that is what makes them so beautifully unique. They all are traveling the same road, but with different journeys. Being a transplant from a much more liberal part of the country, I do find challenges to the religious-right thought process that predominately "decorates" the landscape. Luckily, there are more people like us, it is just finding them :) I believe "it takes a village" and that for all of the children of the village it takes love and acceptance of every child no matter what! Thank you for your courage! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03635411789941121070noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6317928323249589917.post-20899527868555422072012-12-24T05:50:05.598-08:002012-12-24T05:50:05.598-08:00I too have a similar situation with my son. He has...I too have a similar situation with my son. He has been attending school as a boy since kindergarten. No one in the school knows that my son was born a girls except a select few of the staff. Life is so much easier for him now that he gets to be who he wants to be. It's nice to know they are genuinely happy. I am also glad to know that there are other children out there like mine. I have been on an endless search in my area for a play date for my child so he can realize he isn't the only one going through this.dandersonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18378275700664756712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6317928323249589917.post-61417260742526072232012-07-17T20:00:22.213-07:002012-07-17T20:00:22.213-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.ph82https://www.blogger.com/profile/01924924329609780815noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6317928323249589917.post-51404585686944589502012-06-23T13:56:03.807-07:002012-06-23T13:56:03.807-07:00Hi Candice, I want to tell you thank you so much f...Hi Candice, I want to tell you thank you so much for your post on this. Too many transgendered children grow up without their parents' love and support because they do not understand or are ignorant about their own transgendered children. A parent's love and support means the world to a transgendered child. It helps boost their self-esteem and confidence, something that many transgendered children need so desperately when they start to transition to live the life they need to live in order to be happy. I hope the best for you and Kennedy :)<br /><br />JadeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6317928323249589917.post-66643618545427325742011-09-06T11:14:00.234-07:002011-09-06T11:14:00.234-07:00My 13 year old daughter told me last year that she...My 13 year old daughter told me last year that she wants to be a boy. This was the first I've heard her say anything like that. She loved to wear dresses and try on high heels. She is attracted to boys and girls. I am hesitant to complete believe she is transgender. She renamed herself "Ed" and wants everyone to call her that now. Is it wrong to give in to her desires and call her a boy? I am still searching for a therapist that specializes in gender issues for her to talk to. I'm just afraid that this is simply a fascination to her and that if I let her "change" too much, she will be afraid to change her mind later. I've also been looking for a support group for parents but have had no luck.Cherylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16501804392600418945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6317928323249589917.post-70245699051135940082010-11-30T12:44:01.202-08:002010-11-30T12:44:01.202-08:00Hi Candice,
I'm in the very early stages of w...Hi Candice,<br /><br />I'm in the very early stages of writing and thinking about this. My daughter is definitely a tomboy and is starting to say she wishes she were a boy. We think it's more about wanting to do boy things (Legos, Star Wars, light sabers, etc.) than being treated as a boy, but time will tell. We will love and support this kid no matter what.<br /><br />It looks like you're taking a break from this blog, but I'd love to follow Kennedy's story and cheer for your family.<br /><br />Thanks for sharing, for being brave, and for loving your Kennedy so deeply.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com