Just wanted to update about our new venture!
Kennedy started a new school about two weeks ago. We moved to another part of town and decided to have Kennedy introduced and be known as a boy at the new school. I feel that being a "normal" boy will give Kennedy a chance to blossom even more, no more "what are you?...or, why do you dress like a boy?"...and the one Kennedy hates the most "are you a boy or a girl" questions. Kennedy has always wanted to be just a regular boy in school and doesn't want to be asked every single day why and what are you! Who would?? Anyway we started at this new school and only the staff know that Kennedy is transgender, so far so good. Kennedy is happy and is accepted as a regular boy. He has made lots of friends and no longer gets questioned every single day about what or who he is. Doesn't all mothers want a normal life for their child? I know I want my little one to feel safe and happy at home, school or anywhere he is.
To anyone who wonders If I am deceiving other parents....not at all it is no business what private part my little one has, he doesn't have to disclose something so personal. I don't plan on letting Kennedy spend the night or vice verse unless the parent is made aware that Kennedy is transgender. WHY?? I'm not planning on a whole lot of issues or rather praying they don't happen, although I do feel that if Kennedy wants a friend sleep over or vice verse then he is getting really close to that child and wants to have a close friendship. If I feel that it is a safe environment and I can trust the parents, I may disclose Kennedy's condition, if I don't I won't and will not let the cat of the bag...per say!
I am by no means ashamed of Kennedy or him being transgender, but the masses of people in this world are driven by hate and prejudice and I wont let my child have a large target on his back...nor will I let him be ashamed either!!
I think there can be a balance in life, and as Kennedy gets older I will let him make up his mind how many "know" about him being trans. Although my job right now is to protect him and that is all I am doing. Kennedy is happy as a bug at school and says he has lots of friends! No surprise Kennedy is quite a hoot!!
It really is messed up when you think about it... Every time you fill out a job application, they want to know what's between your legs!
ReplyDeleteI applaud you and thank you. Good luck to you and your son.
ReplyDeleteThank you so much for the support. I am happy that Kennedy will have a chance to be a regular boy at school who wins everyone over by his wonderful, hularious personality and that lil honery grin! LOL
ReplyDeleteYour blog is wonderful. I stumbled across is and I am anxious to hear more about the remarkable Kennedy. I do have one question, perhaps I haven't read back far enough, but is Kennedy the name he was born with or a name he chose?
ReplyDeleteKennedy is the name he was born with. It is kind of ironic but his name is very bi gender and so is his middle i was lucky. He to told me at 4 he wanted to change his name to joe because he wanted to have a boys name I told him Kennedy is a boys name. Even though we hadnt transitioned at that time I still wanted him to know his name wasnt just a girls name it was a boys too.
ReplyDeleteThanks for your interest and support, I appreciate all that care.
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ReplyDeleteThank you so much for sharing your story. It really means a lot to me and my family. I came out as transgender about a year ago to my family and my mom is happy to know she is not the only one who had a transgender child.
-Alexander
Hello, I just want to say thank you so much for sharing your story.
ReplyDeleteIt is brave, courageous, compassionate parents like you who have helped give me the strength to let my child avoid transitioning all together and just be who she says she is. I am the Mommy of a transgirl who is only 3 years old. She said she was a girl as soon as she was able to speak and would not relent. At 2 1/2 years old my once outgoing child started to shut down and lay there and moan refusing to speak. Once we agreed to let her wear girl clothes and be referred to as a girl, well, a new child was born. Thank you for paving the way for parents like me. I know the 2 1/2 is incredibly young but we never wanted our child to be in distress and based on all the accounts I have read online from parents of other transkids, that was the trajectory we were on. So, my transgirl never had to even transition really. As soon as she could speak, we listened. Perhaps she won't stay this way and to be honest I would melt to the ground with relief if that was the case. I pray daily to have my son back but I also pray that I am able to remain compassionate enough to accept whatever god gives us. Thank you again.
Blessings to you and your family.